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Objection #5 - But they want to go where their friends are going!  (Shouldn’t I let them stay with their friends?)

This question may be masking an underlying question:  Who should make the decision where your son or daughter will go to high school?  Should that decision be made solely by the parents, solely by the student, or through a combined effort?

Parents who allow their kids to make or share in the decision about where they will go to high school might be faced with this type of logic:

You: 

"I’ve thought and prayed about it and I would like you to go to DLHS."

Him or her :      

"But, mom and dad, all of my friends are going to (fill in a public high school here)!  You aren’t going to separate me from my best friends, are you?"

Now what do you do?

Friends are extremely important to the average 13-14 year old.  It is not surprising that they would want to do what their friends are doing.  High school can be a scary proposition and going into a new environment with their best friends at their side can be very appealing.  This argument is probably the most compelling one that a kid can make to his or her parents.

The answer to this dilemma is two-fold:

1.  Parents should make the decision about high school for their son or daughter.  Your son or daughter’s input should be considered, but ultimately, decisions about the spiritual well-being of your children should be yours.

If you believe that choosing a high school will play a role in the spiritual development of your son or daughter (it will), then making that decision for them is not only prudent – it’s Scriptural:

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not turn from it.  (Proverbs 22:6)

It is truly amazing that excellent parents, who have guided and made the right spiritual decisions for their children since birth, will often allow their 13-year old kids to choose where they will spend 40-50% of their awake time for the next four years of their life.  Unbelievable, really.

2.  They will make new friends.  That may be a harsh reality for them to grasp, but not only can they stay in touch with their existing friends, but they will make new ones as well. 

If you have ever spent considerable time around high school students, you would know that friends and social circles are ever changing for kids during those four years.  It is rare indeed that a student has the same best friend as a senior that he/she does as a freshman.